Thoughts for Thursday: Blogging and family

I thought and thought about what I could blog about today for my TFT and then I thought about everyone whose blogs I read and I realized many of us have something in common....we don't seem to talk too much about our significant others (S.O.) or post pictures of them.

I am curious for those of you who blog.......does your S.O. know about your blog? How do they feel about you blogging? Are there certain things that you have had to compromise about regarding what you blog about?? (Such as limiting personal/private matters or family pictures) Or does anything go? (I am sometimes surprised about the things that get vented on blogs!)
Does your S.O read your blog? Do they give you feedback or private comments?  What about your family?

It seems only natural to me that your family would want to read your blog and that you would want them to read it (for some of us, that is the whole point!).  I do know that some people are very private about their blog and would rather that strangers read it than people they know!

Just curious what you guys think.

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TFT posters this week:

Jessica on Connecting

Jenny on weight loss

Heather on tax rebates

Robyn on looking good

April on message board observations

Zoe on whale meat

Emilie on apartment living

Nic on socks

Stacy on segregated schools

Michann on what you stand for

Comments

[jenny]

my hubby knows i blog. he doesn't read it unless i want him to and make him read something. he just doesn't have any interest. my mom/dad/siblings/other family read it on a regular basis - along with many friends.

i guess i don't really talk about matt much or post pictures of him well because - i have no idea! i talk about things we do or things he is doing but i don't think i really get in depth about our marriage. just haven't gone there yet! oh, and i try not to vent about any issues we might have because well, some things have to be kept from the world right? :)

i'm on the tft train this week too! good post!

[Jessica]

like jenny, my hubby doesn't have interest either. some family members read, but most don't frequent a computer, and lots don't have high speed internet! i try to keep it light and keep in mind what i'm writing, but i'd LOVE to go completely uncensored.

[Nicole]

My husband knows that I have a blog, and if I actually open it and sit him infront of it, he will read it. I don't do much complaining about him for the simple fact that the complaining I want to do is about him always being gone with work . . . but that is exactly what allows me to be a stay-at-home-mom, so I try to forgive. I would love to post a picture or two, but I can't honestly find one that has either him or I in it that wouldn't require scanning and uploading . . . they were all taken well before the digital camera!

None of my family knows about MY blog (the kids have their own to keep everyone in the loop.) I wanted someplace that I could write whatever I wanted about whomever I wanted. I don't have many girlfriends, and I know my husband gets tired of hearing me complain, so if I want to, that is my outlet.

Great post, and I love the new banner!

[Kim]

My husband HAS a blog! LOL. :) So yeah, he reads mine and reads a few of these other girls' too. I don't vent about him on mine - well, really, it's extremely rare that I have anything to vent about - but, even if I did I don't think I would go there... I'd probably regret it later. And yes, my whole family reads my blog... which I think DOES affect what I write about, etc. Most of the time it's fine but every once in awhile I wish I could just say something but don't because I know my audience, know what I mean?

[adrienne]

My husband knows I blog but just didn't understand why. It wasn't until I was diagnosed with Cervical Cancer that it REALLY understood, and just plain "got it". He saw that you really can make friends online, even though some of them you will never meet. He also saw it was an outlet for me. A different way of expression and he is fine with it.

[Mary]

My husband knows I blog.....he calls it my "crack pipe". He'll occasionally check it. He'll send the link to people when they ask for updates about the little guy or want to see pictures. I try not vent too much about stuff on here that goes on between Einstein. I'm often surprised at what some people DO write about their S.O.s! My husband does think it's weird that I have "blog friends". That's when I remind him that he and I met on line!

My husband reads my blog every day. I usually write during the day while he's at work, so he likes to see what's going on. Also, I rarely actually print out pictures these days so he has to check there to get pictures of his kids for his screensaver or desk, LOL! In general, I consider it more "our blog" than my blog because even though a lot of my "journalling" gets in there, it is very much about our family as well as read by all of our extended families.
Actually, when I first started blogging, Ryan "guest blogged" every Sunday. It was pretty funny. But he got bored. He says he doesn't know how I can always write so much. Actually a lot of people say that... :)

Anyway, I guess I don't talk a lot about him or our relationship on the blog other than things we've been doing. Not because he's weird about his privacy or anything... but just because there's not much to say. I mean, it'd be kinda weird to write about how much I love my husband and about our married bliss all the time... just kidding! I honestly don't usually have much to vent about... and if I do I try really hard to tread lightly. I read way too many wives who vent about their husbands and it gets quite uncomfortable when it crosses the line from "Ha, ha, my husband is such a cheesehead" into "I actually dislike him and this is a bad marriage". That is far from true here and I don't ever, ever want to come across like that and so I like to err on the side of caution especially in the written word. I love and respect my husband a great deal and that's what I want to come across in my writing of us... even if there's a vent here and there.

Fun topic Kristi! What about your thoughts/answers to your questions?

[heather]

That last comment was from me.
How come it always seems my TFT comments are longer than your TFT posts to begin with?! LOL!!

[michelle]

I don't blog with discretion, I just don't think I have "secrets". I blog for my family and friends and because I think the girls are so damn cute! I have to share them with everyone else! As far as Brian goes, well, together we aren't that interesting so we don't make it into the blog much!

[amy]

my husband once told me that i should find a hobby!!! well i guess i showed him! lol i actually have found two wonderful hobbies - blogging and photography. he has no complaints. he doesn't mind one bit. i would never trash him on my blog (or anywhere else) i just don't think that's right.

as for the rest of my family... my sisters both blog too and my mom just learned how to check our blogs. she's having some fun too!

[Robyn]

My husband knows I blog, I don't think he reads it. He hasn't said anything, and I do complain about him on it. I don't really post any pictures of him just because he's a lot more private than me, and just like I don't post many photos of my stepson, though now that he has a facebook or my space page, I guess he's out there. I know my mom reads it, it was partially why I started it. I don't know who she has told about it, because they haven't commented.

[Leslie]

Jade never reads my blog. I don't think he would even know how to get to it. He knows I have it though. He just isn't into the computer. My family reads my blog and I do it mainly for them. The out of town ones especially. There are somedays I would love to gripe and bitch on it, but I don't want my family to read that. I just think it would stir up stuff. Plus, one time I made a comment about my MIL and my dad said it probably wasn't a good idea to "air my dirty laundry." Whatever. He is right though. I don't like to get on here and bitch about Jade. I just don't think that it's really nice. You are right though, we don't talk about our SO's much.

[April (Mrs. Velvet Cak)]

My DH knows that I have a blog. He doesn't read it nor does he care about what I post. My family doesn't read my blog either. My blog is like my place away from everyone that I am related to. A place where I can be brutally honest and find out what other people think. I don't really post anything that I want to hide there. I just don't share it with family because it is my place.

[Rolana]

I don't have a SO right now. No, my family doesn't know I blog. I don't really have a reason why I haven't told any of them, but none of them know. I don't really rather strangers read it than people I know. But I've met lots of people that I'm now friends with through my blog and I love making and meeting new people.

[Denise H.]

Great Topic!

I talk about my hubby quite a bit on my blog and he doesn't seen to mind. Some of his friends read my blog and will give him a hard time about somethings but thats about it.

As far as him reading my blog he does every once in a while but not all of the time.

I do have a lot of friends, cousins, sisters, aunts and uncles who read it all of the time.

[Nic]

Interesting topic!

My hubby reads my blog- its his "home page" on his computer at home. Both of our families read as well, although I very rarely get comments from family/real life friends or my hubby (unless he's attempting to defend himself in one of my vents).

As far as writing about Ryan, I write about things we do as a family, and I also write a lot of vents about him too. I'm sure I come across as a wench who hates her husband, but honestly its my blog/journal and its therapeutic for me to vent and write it all out so I really don't care how it comes across to others. There are lots of great things I could say about him, but thats just not that interesting LOL!

I often think I'd love to have a blog that was secret to family/friends in real life/husband so that I could bitch to my hearts content without anyone else knowing. But I also like that I can be myself on my blog and say what I want to say and not feel like I'm always holding myself back (ok, there are plenty of times I hold back on things I want to write, but for the most part, if I want to write something I write it).

[Lina]

Little late on jumping on the TFT train, as usual, but here goes :)
No blog, yet, & reason being my DH would be a real booger about it (I think?) He thinks I already spend enought time on the computer reading blogs, probably true, & don't need to spend anymore time there.
I may jump into the blogging pool someday, always tempted.

[Maria]

My husband knows that I blog...but he hates it! :D He rarely, if ever, reads my blog. I do talk about him sometimes because he is a part of my every day life, but he prefers that I not post explicit pictures of any family members. Pets are usually fine with him. So yes, for the most part, I cannot blog many of my favorite portraits I take of him or my daughter, unless they are taken from far away and/or looking away or blurred out. So that has been our compromise. I know he wishes I wouldn't blog at all...but, I love my blog and the friendships that have developed thanks to it! :D